Behind The Tracks: AARON KUSTERER – Learning To Feel (Single) (2024)

This song was born out of a difficult period in my marriage when my wife and I were going through some storms. There were decisions and needs on both sides that--at the time--seemed to conflict, and ultimately drove a bit of a wedge between us for a while. While sparing the private details, this song is about working through those challenges from my perspective. The verses cover a large part of what I was feeling and my perception of the situation. At the choruses, I shift into the concept of moving past the hurt and frustration, and into a place of healing, reconnection, and forward momentum in the relationship. The “Learning to Feel” concept could be compared to re-learning another language after not having spoken it for many years. My multi- lingual friends talk a lot about the “use it or lose it” concept when speaking another language. A relationship is no different in that it needs to be nurtured and cared for continually (use it) or it won’t last (lose it). The presence of major, long-lasting frustration and anger doesn’t bode very well for nurturing a relationship and for me personally, made me numb as well as angry. Working through that and eventually moving past it was (and is) very much like learning to feel/love again. Sort of like kickstarting a motor …or a heart. But, I’m pretty sure Motley Crue already has that covered.